I am amazed at many of the responses here. It seems as if most of the people are still living in the stone ages. Don't ask him, be nice to him, be quite, take care of home nicely , let him be, seem to me the advice many are offering. What a shame !! Someone said don't talk of such small things in forum. This is not a small thing. She is his partner and has every right to ask him questions and to know about finances and any other matter. He is the one who is acting as a total jerk. She is taking care of kids and house, which is a job in itself. If he does not respect her then he is a loser.
My advice to the 'wife' is, first be strong and try to become independent. I know you cannot work because of the visa, but start doing things like learning to drive and finding friends with whom you can hang out. Don't be totally dependent on him. Above all be strong and do not be weak. If he becomes abusive and uses violence threaten to call the police. This will scare the shi# out of him. I know many will say, why do this, be quite and just be submissive. But why should she live like this? She seems a well educated woman. If he cannot respect her then he does not deserve her. She is a human being and every human being has dignity and should not be treated like he is treating his better half no less. Shame on this guy. |
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