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What to talk with parents?   Desi north south   01/26/2018 06:56 PM  

Don't discriminate between south and north but a general question..its been 3 years away from hone have my wife and kid... and I really now a days feeling what to talk with my parents ..i hardly have topics or they don't know much English so I can say something here ..and I don't depend on them financially any more not sending money to them as here my budget is tight ...kindly motivate or give some ideas or what you feel the same ... I love answer from 3cents 2 cents.1 cent also !!btw I am 30 years old

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Re: What to talk with parents?   Helper   01/26/2018 08:39 PM  

Just call them once in while and ask how they are doing, politics are going, how family and friends are doing there etc. Keep it simple and nice.

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Re: What to talk with parents?   AB   01/26/2018 10:29 PM  

my 2 cents !

This is really unfortunate to hear that you do not have anything much to talk to parents but I appreciate your intent!

In one line about my parents ! I have taken care of them for the last 20 years every expense ! Never had problem to talk, we love to talk!

regarding your parents ! may be you could think about what good time you had with them and build relationship with them in terms of what are there interest and issues they are facing! That might help you to build some sort of relationship and attachment!

Also, remember, no one needs us! especially our kids too ! parents are the only one who love you and need you ! You will know that when they pass away from this world !

Good Luck



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Re: Re: What to talk with parents?   desi south north   01/26/2018 10:57 PM  

Thanks Ab & Helper this really giving some kind of good thoughts for sure! But I really love to hear from other people voice too!!

agree they might feel lonely but if I call I am really searching for words or topics, I dont have lively discussion like while I am Back in India, Earlier I use to call daily later reduce to 3 days now like weekly or bi-weekly!!

they are not highly educated like me or other parents who knows Geograhpical boundaries, so I feel really low on topics



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Re: Re: Re: What to talk with parents?   Woman   01/26/2018 11:15 PM  

Well!There will always be a gap when to comes to parents no matter how well aware they are..My mom doesnt know how to use the phone that well and recently I ended up showing some frustration as I needed her to pull some info from the phone.
When i looked back at the the whole incident iI was left with nothing but guilt .As someone already mentioned your parents are the only people who love you unconditionally and we are where we are cause of their sacrifices .
Treat them with utmost respect and love as they need us the most in their old age.Your budget must be tight but if they need money you can keep some aside .Its just about priorities and that if u really want to do soemthing for them .
I would say even if you do not have much to talk call them everyday ,it will get them a lot of emotional security
Last but not the least Parents are no less than God!
I have a single parent and trust me its the worst feeling in the world not to have them around
Hope it helps!

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Re: Re: Re: Re: What to talk with parents?   Helper   01/26/2018 11:37 PM  

If u r the only child then u gotta spend some time talking to them..i know we cant talk daily and also we dont hv much topics here to talk.If they hv a good relation with ur wife u can both talk like what u hv done what new things ur kid has learned and what e!se ur parents r doingin India ur hometown any new developments or politics etc Talk about climate like snow etc.Then they will open up slowly .Already they might hv feeling different thinking wat to talk wen u r in usa and they r in India so break the ice and start silly funny conversations sometimes even stuff from ur childhood funnyincidents from ur wife s life too(If she is comf. only)if u hv siblings u guys can conference or ved call and talk that way u wont run out of topics.They dont expect u to talk to them for an hr but they surely expect u to call them once in a while. Coming to money n stuff i really cant comment cos it involves lot of other thingz.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to talk with parents?   Desi north south   01/27/2018 01:20 AM  

(at) women thanks for the reply I feel the emotion but saying easy words pa rents are god affection and all but in this fast generation they are really slow to catch things ..i teach them how to do video call from whats app they are happy seeing me but they don't know how to hold their phone !! So I feel it's like semi video call and left the call..sorry to hear single.parent feel free to share your story like to listen that if you are ok
(at) helper you have really good thoughts and straight forward I really love it and some good inputs

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to talk with parents?   Proud South   01/27/2018 09:25 AM  

gossip about your inlaws

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to talk with parents?   Helper   01/27/2018 11:59 AM  

No.. gossiping never works as a communication if u r gossiping about ur own family members then u r stirring the hornet s nest. If opposite person comes to know that u r talking on family members then it can jeopardize ur personal relation also it decrease the value in ur partner eyes.
Take one step at a time...hv some patience u can build ur way...also it takes time for them to learn anything new in this age i know its frustrating to teach, but remember one thing when u were kid when u use to stumble while walking they took measures every single time to teach u until u learn and walk on ur own.Every time u did someyhing they picked up the pieces so hv patience and go on..Good luck..

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