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What to do,Confusion :(?   DD   02/18/2018 02:27 PM  

Well my wife got h4 ead and she wants to work, I am consultant I might not stay in one location for long lasting, need to move every 6 months...She want to work, my problem is she is damn beautiful, thats why I married her, After marriage I found that she has a break-up love story in her college life!! she confessed and I found only after marriage, so neverthless I cant do anything except accepting apologies, thats no one likes but thats what it is, so coming back to point is it safe to allow her to work like this, I am feeling insecure, if someone try to poke her, I am afraid of that!! What your guys thougts those who are sending those beautiful wifes to jobs or beautiful women who are working in software whats your experiences, even after marriage...PLease!thanks


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Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   curious indian   02/18/2018 05:23 PM  

hahaha.. if you hold such insecurities, then you shouldn't even go to office and leave your exceptionally b'ful wife at home. Who knows she gets a new story to tell you in future?

Grow up and open up!

Or move back to India where you can live in a joint family where your wife will be under constant surveillance

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Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   My thoughts   02/18/2018 05:30 PM  

Beautiful or not. If you love each other, then it does not matter. Your fear is probably a guilty feeling in yourself. If you are honest, you would not have any insecurity.

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Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   studied psychology   02/18/2018 05:56 PM  

Keep her sexually satisfied, she won't even think about other men. Women psychology is totally different from men, men oftentimes find other women even if they are sexually satisfied with their wife, while women prefer commitment and long term relationships if their sexual needs are being satisfied. She is already married to you, so she will most likely be loyal to you forever as long as you are keeping her sexually satisfied.

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Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   dd   02/18/2018 09:19 PM  

Thanks Curious Indian and My thougths!! and will you please shut up psycology!!

Well I dont mean the continous surivlance what I was wondering about those who are sendng their own wifes to work, dont they have the same feel? THANKS for your times

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Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   desi_h1b   02/18/2018 09:50 PM  

Yes your true. this happens to most the people because of the situation outside is so bad. Many guys are taking advantage of girls. all the best

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Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   from a woman   02/19/2018 06:59 AM  

I like the comments from My Thoughts and agree with that.
I am a Punjabi girl and married a Bengali man. I love him so much. On the flip side, I actually used to worry and feel insecure, because he would always get attention from other girls in parties whether it is Indian or American. Before I met him he dated and I do get to meet them also. They tell me I am so lucky that it is I who is his wife. I do not feel jealous at all. In fact my husband says, that he is lucky to have me. I think love is the most important thing.

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Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Pakistan   02/19/2018 07:08 AM  

get her a burkha

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Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   North   02/19/2018 08:30 AM  

Southie ho nahi sakti.. Delhi wali ya Punjabi hai.

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Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Another Woman   02/19/2018 09:37 AM  

I like the comments from a woman.
I am originally from Pakistan and met someone while going to CCSU. He is from India and a Hindu and 15 years older. My family being very coservative Muslim did not like me to have anything to do with that. I did develop physical relationship with him but we could not marry, since I was not ready to confront my parents. After 6 months or so, I had to go to Pakistan and there they married me. We came back with my husband, but I could not forget him....maybe I was young and he was my first love. I am confused. I want to meet him again. Maybe I will contact him. I miss him badly. What should I do?? I feel bolder now, since I am older..almost 23.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Best   02/19/2018 10:28 AM  

When u love someone truly u gotta trust her and respect her...she cudve kept the secret with her of herbreakuplove story but no she opened up and told u everything it itself proves how much she is loyal to u so dont break that bond with silly thoughts...coming to other guys poking ur wife it may happen even she goes to grocery store or hospital or library...also u may endup provoking her with ur insecure thoughts.be open be happy...let her bhappy...if u love her trust her respect her thoughts n tell her hw much she means to u in ur life.

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Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   DD   02/19/2018 01:55 PM  

Dear from women and Best, thanks for your kind replies, and for the women from Pakistan wish you find your man soon, I dont judge you are doing right or wrong, its upto you but remember truth is very dangerous one day or other it will come out for sure!! So kindly be careful.

So my question to the womens who are replying is how often in office or workplace you get poked, and how life is handled when husband is way far from your location? this inputs will be helpful.
and
Best, going to grocery for 5 minutes vs working in same location daily lot of difference and also one important thing is its our desi people who try to invade the alone women not the americans, just a observation

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Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   God Bless you!   02/19/2018 03:27 PM  

Dear Friend,
Insecurity as simple as it sounds may turn into a very dangerous thing. The best way to deal with this is lower your expectations and prepare for the worst. Jealousy, suspicion and all other factors will be in control by doing this.
As a third person in this picture, I can see that you are wrong and confused, due to your own Nature. You make a statement that you married her for her beauty. All women are beautiful in their own way- depends on what is more important to you.
She seems like a nice person, and shared her previous experience with you when she felt comfortable with you. Doesnt matter if its after marriage. You would still have married her, because she is beautiful.
Love is unconditional - And if you truely love her, you will continue to love and cherish her to your best. She is married to you and whether she falls for someone else, is NEVER in your control. Rest Treat her like a woman and love and Respect her.

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Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Best   02/19/2018 06:55 PM  

Workplace or no workplace it doesnt matter.one can go to office for years but still loyal to wife or husband kids family etc or can go to grocery store see a guy or girl get a number and can start from there..So my question is as u r going to offc did u poke any girl ?did u ever want to? Or how do u react when any girl try to?if ur answer is NO thats ur answer to the question too..ur wife wont give a damn.

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Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Huh   02/19/2018 07:01 PM  

I dont think he is married i think he may be engaged or soon to be.. or even just having sone tine pass or just finding out what if his wife comes to usa and start seeing all these guys here he himself is sounding nsecure...Americans have much more work and busy filled lives there last thought would be banging some one elses Indian wife...If so then my friend badluck to u..u go n try for white girl..

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Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   QQ   02/19/2018 08:19 PM  

ha ha awesome group to discuss this !!!! unless you are making fun of others comments !


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Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Desi Men   02/20/2018 11:52 AM  

Lol!! Lets be honest in this anonymous forum,
I have witnessed many married women in IT got banged by other than their actual husbands back in India , and in usa its more cake walk with least survillance.

I witnessed in usa husband is very busy and wifes dont have anything to do in home ...its more dangerous to leave in home rather leaving in office, in my project there is a women who looks good, but busy always .I mean literally always in phone with whom i dont know but not husband though !!busy with other boyfriend when asked she use to say her husband is very busy always!! imagine if she is in home what would happen!!

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Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Desi_H1b   02/20/2018 12:06 PM  

true ! Girls like to get to banged even they like there husband-
Many girls know that but don't share that fact

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Desi Men   02/20/2018 02:11 PM  

well I dont agree that all girls like that !! But with change in circumstances womens are getting exposed to those!! They are not getting treated like princess by their husband any more because change in life style in IT, working hours are enormous in this IT competition, and husband working in different state and have full freedom here but no company for them to do things, so they have to relay on their male friends, and next things will follow !! Our desi people either in USA or India one thing has changed once upon a time if the women is married they are afraid to talk to her but now change in mindset if the women is married they here as more easy catch because she dont say this to any one!!
Verdict: if possible marry avg looking women so at least you can avoid certain things.


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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Kool Dudes and Gals   02/20/2018 04:06 PM  

All of you are going to end up with Aids and Bad Karma... All you need is a leaking condom. Good Luck!!!!

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Desi Men   02/20/2018 04:35 PM  

Hello Gandhiji, "Kool dudes" why will you get aids when you see something or discuss something happening around the world!!
not sure how you kind of guys will even get VISAS

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   LOL   02/20/2018 05:14 PM  

Really LOL.. made my day you "COOL DUDE n GALS"

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   One desi women   02/20/2018 07:24 PM  

Agree Desi Men!! So why should only men have fun always!!
Lets turn the tables for change!!


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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   QQ   02/20/2018 11:00 PM  

ha ha.. if some one want to fk around there are 100 ways ! if some one is that much worried then .. watch out yourself ! to most part you may deserved to be cheated !

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   CT_Coder   02/22/2018 12:21 PM  

Lol!! Simple you know

If you send her = out.
WRITE: 'She gets fucked'.
else.
is she not fucked'?
endif.

If its written = she gets fucked.
she will get fucked.
endif.

why worry bro!! chill and enjoy, atleast she earns money if she go outside!! dont feel insecure, feel more financial secure.




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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What to do,Confusion :(?   Just saying   02/22/2018 08:50 PM  

Maybe it's in your head. Maybe your wife is just average looking but for you she's miss india..and hence insecurity. Once you see her without makeup am sure your insecurities will run away

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