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Stay at home MOM    SAHM   04/08/2020 10:18 PM  

Hi ,
I am SAHM, I used to spend & buy things for myself before marriage.
Now, my husband is a sole bread earner for our family.
Every time I buy something he questions me “why do you need this when you are not even going out” - like regular ticktac clips or basic face cream (olay) foundation
WHY DO YOU NEED THIS WHEN YOU ARE NOT GOING OUT !!!!!!!!
I feel like I am doing all the household work & I don’t even deserve to buy something small for me because I am a stay at home mom.
I believe in budgeting. But we really need few things once in a while. Not just when we go out which we hardly do
My question is to SAHM/ homemaker who is not earning
How much do you spend on yourself for a month. ( can be your self care / dress or anything personal)
Even if you are budgeting, is there anything you buy for yourself ? How much willl it be on the monthly basis ?????

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Re: Stay at home MOM    desi   04/08/2020 10:46 PM  

Divorce him....

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Re: Stay at home MOM    Desi   04/09/2020 12:11 PM  

wtf, is he not making that much to buy basics ? or are you painting an extreme picture here ? maybe you are a shopaholic.. ? or was this cream 50$ ? lol

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Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    dipa   04/09/2020 02:50 PM  

tell him no sex...

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Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    Desi   04/09/2020 03:19 PM  

this is the most immature and relation damaging advice..

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    deepa   04/09/2020 09:07 PM  

it works

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    desi   04/10/2020 08:40 AM  

even from a female prespective, what is the difference between you and a prostitute if you do that ? you young women/narrow minded women need to understand that marriage is sacred thing. it ties you emotionally and physically, try to work with your hubby rather than doing these kind of damaging things.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    deepa   04/10/2020 10:07 AM  

stfu with this typical village mentality bs that this is a sacred thing and shit...it is what it is,,, at the end of the day this is what it boils down to

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Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    SAHM   04/11/2020 02:55 PM  

It is 30$ Lol
So I am asking on how much is good for a month
Say a pocket money or basics for SAHM


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Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    SAHM   04/11/2020 02:57 PM  

He is earning good & we have one kid
Basic face cream not from Sephora
Just drug store


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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    SAHM    04/11/2020 03:11 PM  

Let’s talk about budgeting
Even I want to do budgeting not just he but spending how much is good for self care

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    Sri   04/11/2020 03:56 PM  

he is. a cheap bastard... you guys have to think about a 30$ item after so many years of marriage makes me wonder you people are frigging cheapskates....hope you tip when you go to a restaurant... may be you never go to a restaurant....shame!

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    mom   04/11/2020 04:57 PM  

I am facing the same issue with my husband. I cook clean and take care of the house and my kids. Also, the budget I keep it down, but not once had he got anything for me. I feed the same way. He earns pretty well. I cannot buy a basic such as a clothes or shoes etc.,

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Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    desi   04/12/2020 02:39 AM  

So, after hearing your story I fully support you... I think he doesnt value you anymore... set a clear expectations that you want to take care of yourself as it is both health wise and confidence wise motivating !! start going to threading, facials, spa, manicure/pedicure/ go to gym, go on a diet.... make him feel like you are worth it and you need to maintain your value. if you are getting fat and cant keep him on his toes ( challenge him for outings/parties/dress nice to tease him or show your jhalak) then this is what will happen.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    Troll   04/12/2020 08:22 AM  

kya chutiyapa hai ye

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    Have a Nice day   04/12/2020 10:46 PM  

This is Basic human rights...Mr Troll

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    Troll   04/13/2020 12:09 AM  

You don't get it, this whole conv is crossing all the limits of stupidity, i spent more than 70 dollars every weekend on a dinner with my wife, and she buys whatever she wants, are there really people who would stop their wife from buying a 30$ cream, I am stumped...do i live in a parallel world?

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    o.O   04/13/2020 02:02 PM  

I can't believe it, don't be a rotten P (at) ssy - wear a mask and be quiet and quarantine - how immature, can't handle your own personal life

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    Suggestion   04/18/2020 07:17 AM  

Mr Troll,
There are people living in America, controlling what there wife can do , can wear, can talk, whom to talk.....and so on . I myself have seen women accepting it given the fact , the man is earning. Given the fact he has conveniently married a woman with less education so she is expected to cook , clean and be a good homemaker.
Although this man who does not wants to get every cheap for his wife is very cheap and selfish. He is just using her. And does not have true love or any other feelings.
They can go for counseling. She can start working if she can.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    Suggestion   04/18/2020 09:28 AM  

Mr Troll,
There are people living in America, controlling what there wife can do , can wear, can talk, whom to talk.....and so on . I myself have seen women accepting it given the fact , the man is earning. Given the fact he has conveniently married a woman with less education so she is expected to cook , clean and be a good homemaker.
Although this man who does not wants to get every cheap for his wife is very cheap and selfish. He is just using her. And does not have true love or any other feelings.
They can go for counseling. She can start working if she can.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    Stay at home mom   04/23/2020 11:09 AM  

Thank you Desi.

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Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Stay at home MOM    Life   04/25/2020 02:05 PM  

Omg she never gets it, get a life

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